Relationship governed by family law
If a child is recognized by you, you are the child’s parent by law. You then have a legal relationship, or a family relationship with your child. This means that you are obliged to support your child until he or she is 21 and that your child is your heir. By recognition you are not the legal representative of your child. This is only when you also have custody of your child.
Custody of the child
Authority is regulated by law. It is the duty and the right to care for and educate children under the age of 18. Usually the authority lies with one or two parents. One of the parents can also have custody together with another person. The authority cannot be exercised by more than two people. A child is automatically recognized by the mother through birth; regardless of the relationship form. If the mother lives with the father, he must recognize the child and then apply for custody together with the mother via rechtspraak.nl. Only then do they both have authority over the child. In the case of marriages and registered partnerships between men and women, both parents have authority over the child immediately after birth. That is regulated by law.
Recognize and obtain authority
If the child is not automatically recognized by the partner, you can arrange that yourself. This can be done before or immediately after birth, but also at a later time. This always requires permission from the mother until the child is 16 years old. If the child is 12 years or older, the child’s permission is also required. Does your relationship consist of two women or two men? There are various options for recognizing the child and gaining authority in your situation. Non-biological parents can also gain custody by adopting the child.
A guardian is a person who takes care of the minor children if the parents of those children have died. To prevent the court deciding who will become the guardian of your child(ren) after your death, you can appoint a guardian. In this way you also prevent that your children end up somewhere where you would rather not want to or that there is a fight for your children. The advantage of a guardianship arrangement in a will is that you can make more nuances and give instructions to the guardians.
Arrange business in a will
In a will you can arrange a large number of things around custody. Like the finances of the children, whether they have to stay together, whether they have to live with the guardian and much more. The guardian exercises the authority over the minor children and also has the power over the children. In testament you can determine that someone other than the guardian will be in office or that the guardian will also rule until a certain age when the children reach the age of majority.